Tuesday, October 21, 2014

Rejection and People Pleasing

I am watching the sun sprinkle through the trees.  It spills like diamonds on the multicolored leaves.  It is very happy looking.  I love trees.  I am energized by the sunlight.  God is painting Fall masterpieces, and it is giving us a glorious cathedral.  This morning I woke with a knowing.  God’s early morning tug at my heart was speaking to me about overcoming.  This issue was rejection.

Do you ever struggle with that?  It can trigger feelings of defensiveness.  It can call out every fear and anxiety that we have.  I have done a lot of work around this issue of rejection.  We give away so much power to others as a consequence.  You might say we prostitute ourselves trying to avoid rejection.

As I talked to the Lord about this, I realized that even though I have done work all around the issue, I had not gotten to the core…a family inheritance.  Some would call this a sin of the father that has come down in the family.  I am OK with that.  It had to start somewhere.  We have a physical, emotional, and spiritual inheritance that we receive from birth.  I believe it is this that is the foundation of “sand” upon which we build this earthly house.  

At some point, we have to rebuild on the “rock” foundation with is the Truth in Jesus Christ.  This morning the sand of rejection  was replaced with the Spirit’s courage.  With that courage, I will be able to speak the Truth in love and never offer any of it for sale based on another’s opinion.  The Truth is about the love of God towards each of us.  

Do you ever find yourself a bit timid about talking about the love of God because someone might think you are a bit strange?  You have just sold yourself.  What we have to remember is that our Truth of the love of God may touch hearts.  It is when we move into the realm of man’s opinions about this or that…theology, doctrine, prophecy, etc. that we start arguing about the traditions of man.  

Jesus said that we can make of no effect the law of God by making it self-serving.  This is interesting.   It seems they knew how to manipulate the law even then.  This manipulation distorted God’s original intent in the law of love…love to man and to God.  God’s law is made manifest in giving the Beatitudes.  It is about His character.  It is about us taking on His image.  When Christ presented this information to the people, it was turning over many traditions of men that had replaced these principles.  These are the landmarks of character development.  

We have such a legalistic view of law.  These principles free us from that.  Only when we dress up our legalism in the righteous garb of the Pharisees, do we begin the use the “law” as something which becomes the traditions of men.  


How does rejection develop?  It is an energy that we become acquainted with when we did or said something someone else did not like, therefore, they labeled it and/or us as something unacceptable.  It can be full of shame,  It can create defensiveness.  There you have the stuff of life on this planet.  You see, if we left off the legalism of the traditions of men and focused on being people of love, this would disappear.  That is the ideal and far from the reality that we have in this world.  In the meantime, we have to learn the Truth that is based in the Rock…in Christ Jesus I am signification, secure, supported.  It does not include rejection.  Learning to walk in that truth is to turn away from people pleasing.  It is to understand that we are not going to make everyone happy.  We were not put on the earth for that.  We are to be one with Christ, and the oneness that is possible with others comes from others being one with Christ, and, therefore , we are all one with Him.  It is all about God!  What freedom we are offered.  Thank you, Lord.  

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